So upset with our girl..

Our girl has marred her beautiful body again, this time with a home done tattoo, its ugly, dark , offensive and right on her inner wrist. I nearly died. It was done at a friends house and hid from us for quite a while with long sleeves and wrist bands. I am just sick, (at least she said she used a brand new sewing needle and didn't share it with anyone. Thank God.) I am so angry at her that I can't really even have a conversation with her about it, without starting to loose it. She keeps saying "it will fade" I made things worse by making the comment that she could just be grounded until it faded then, this prompted her to try and scrub it off, which as left large, raw, scabs across the area, but didn't fade the ugly thing a bit. I pray to God to let me see her through his eyes, to give me wisdom to know how to respond to her, and to keep and protect her.